tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post8121359381111040816..comments2023-10-21T03:54:12.029-04:00Comments on A Gift Universe: Physical affection for the non-snugglerSheilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-28560944007167364482012-04-07T13:25:22.596-04:002012-04-07T13:25:22.596-04:00+JMJ+
Actually, it was a book based on the five ...+JMJ+ <br /><br />Actually, it was a book based on the five Chinese temperaments. If I remember correctly, Marko is "Wood".Enbrethilielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03414765854670926854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-57667741169470821762012-04-03T21:21:11.279-04:002012-04-03T21:21:11.279-04:00Was it "Temperament Tools"? Someone rec...Was it "Temperament Tools"? Someone recently sent me an excerpt from that book, and apparently Marko is the perfect example of a "Bluebird." It was a good enough description that I'm keeping an eye out for the book ... I want to know what they recommend!<br /><br />Though, with or without the book, the real key is to stay tuned-in to the actual child I have. I learn so much that way. He and I have such different personalities, and yet I feel a really strong rapport with him most of the time.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-6517051242162742102012-04-03T04:03:33.390-04:002012-04-03T04:03:33.390-04:00+JMJ+
Sheila, I was just reading about children&...+JMJ+ <br /><br />Sheila, I was just reading about children's personality types (not based on Myers-Briggs, though) and your description of Marko is almost a textbook example of one of them! One actual example given was of a very active little boy who liked alternating between building things and tearing them down: he was <i>that</i> full of energy. Children with this temperament love to move and to try new things, and hate to sit still; and they may have huge meltdowns when they're told "no." They want to be in charge and seem to get a lot of energy from the conflict that comes from trying to take charge. <br /><br />Off the top of my head, I can't remember what the author recommended, but it can't be as good as your own realisation. I agree with you that even non-cuddlers need physical affection--and I think your addition of tickling and gentle wrestling to your own natural "cuddling style" (LOL!) is exactly what Marko needs. =)Enbrethilielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03414765854670926854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-22193230855975049882012-03-27T17:11:46.250-04:002012-03-27T17:11:46.250-04:00I was the same way when I was a child. My mother ...I was the same way when I was a child. My mother said I would stiffen up anytime she tried to hug me. My first daughter is like this too. It worked for me, though, because I'm not a snugly person by nature. All your descriptions of Marko sound so much like my oldest daughter. During Mass, I would look with envy at all the other mothers who had calm children that actually sat in their laps. My daughter could not stop moving. I remember some of my fellow students at C-dom trying to hold her when she was a baby and commenting on how wiggly she was. <br /><br />My second daughter is super cuddly, though, and I was surprised to find how much I love it. Now my trouble is making sure my first daughter knows how much I love her through different ways, since physical touch is not the way she wants it communicated. That's not to say that she never wants to be held or be hugged. I love it when she randomly decides to hug me; it's almost an honor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-81563517113834724032012-03-25T09:46:45.821-04:002012-03-25T09:46:45.821-04:00When I worked with disabled children, we would oft...When I worked with disabled children, we would often have meetings to address the children's needs and how to meet them. Usually the conversation would begin with, "So and so is doing this behavior problem. What need might this represent, and how can he meet it within the parameters of our classroom and social acceptability?" It sounds like you are doing the same thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com