tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post7805070975955259720..comments2023-10-21T03:54:12.029-04:00Comments on A Gift Universe: The joys, and otherwise, of potty trainingSheilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-72727082533005627062011-12-12T21:56:52.646-05:002011-12-12T21:56:52.646-05:00Sheila,
With E. we did what you did - as soon as ...Sheila,<br /><br />With E. we did what you did - as soon as she was interested in it, we bought her a little potty and showed her how to use it. Within a week she would at least poop on the potty, though not always pee. <br /><br />Many mom's I know were surprised because she was not quite two when she was "potty trained" (we still have accidents and haven't even touched night-time potty training), but she lead the way. <br /><br />She has her moments of rebellion, where she will refuse to go on the potty and leave a trail behind her. Sometimes these moments last for days, and we are back in pull-ups. But with a sensitive bum, she love the cotton panties better, and when I explain that only big girls who go pee in the potty get to wear panties, she straightens out. <br /><br />So, no, I don't think it is too young if he is leading the way. I am personally opposed to these methods of "three days of hell and your kid will be potty trained". Neither I, nor any of my siblings were trained that way, and I don't intend to do that with my kids. Allowing them to take the initiative has worked with the first, we shall see about the second and third. So what if it takes a week, a month, three months? Kids are smart and usually stubborn and will do it in their own time.'Akaterinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08565471800660067407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-84829944499082186972011-12-07T11:33:07.175-05:002011-12-07T11:33:07.175-05:00I didn't even start any of mine before they we...I didn't even start any of mine before they were 2, though one daughter showed much interest earlier. Boys, not so much. At all. One son "got" it by being in a little playgroup/preschool program 3 days a week (he had to be at least nominally out of diapers before they'd take him). The other . . . well, our potty-training program with him was known as "Peeing for Peeps," if that gives you any idea. And it took . . . forever. At 5, he would get wound up in things he was doing and forget to go. Bowel training was the worst -- it was like he didn't want to take time out from his busy day to sit on the pot. <br /><br />When my older son was potty-training age, we were living in the UK and walking everywhere, and I had the location of every public toilet in town memorized. Our round of errands would be like, "We'll leave our house, and there's a public toilet outside the market square. Then we'll go to the supermarket. Then we'll go to Starbucks, because there's a bathroom there . . . " And I took tons of changes of clothes with me everywhere I went. <br /><br />Toddler boys seem to me to care less about feeling wet or dirty -- they just have more important things to do -- and going to the toilet is something you do when you've run out of other things to care about for the moment. The switch does flip, but when it flips is a hugely individualized thing (kind of like reading and other later pursuits). <br /><br />Hang in there.Sally Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05014351173194941624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-35124282427573575902011-12-07T10:44:31.904-05:002011-12-07T10:44:31.904-05:00If he's waking up in the morning with a wet di...If he's waking up in the morning with a wet diaper, this could be a sign that he doesn't have batter control to "hold it" in time for him to connect the need to go with going. A good sign that he is ready is that he wakes with a dry diaper. There's nothing wrong with the kid that waits till 3 or even 4 to go on the potty. He just might not be ready.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-49953384613200842142011-12-07T00:55:25.898-05:002011-12-07T00:55:25.898-05:00My own feelings is later is better. In some cases,...My own feelings is later is better. In some cases, later means about three years old. (Most of my kids did train earlier for bowel movements.) I know with a baby coming, you want to achieve this milestone and not have to worry about two in diapers, but my experience is, later equals less stress and fewer accidents. None of my kids were potty trained before two and a half years of age, even though I tried with every single one of the six. Friends of mine with large families kept giving me the advice not to bother till three, and I think they were pretty wise. <br />Even though another generation started it all so much earlier, their experience included a LOT of accidents. I had accidents myself all the way into grade school. <br />I also had bladder infections trying to hold it in, but I don't think that actually happens with boys.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-23177988423752606762011-12-07T00:15:10.937-05:002011-12-07T00:15:10.937-05:00I started letting my little guy run around pant-le...I started letting my little guy run around pant-less at home when he was about 32 months old. We kept a potty chair in the living room and one of those seats that goes on the toilet in the bathroom - he had unrestrained access to a potty at all times. <br /><br />I didn't use rewards, other than a "good job" or "you're growing up to be a big boy like daddy and brother" (he looks up to both of them so much.) I tried rewards for other things in the past and he's they type of kid that will weigh how much he wants the prize vs. how much he wants to just keep doing what he's doing - he can always get a prize later when he does the thing I want him to do.<br /><br />Finally, I will admit that I bought one package of Pull-Ups. I used them only for the times that we were going to be away from home and nowhere near a toilet for long periods of time - about once a week or less. When they were gone, I bought one pair pf plastic pants to put over his training pants when we went out. I carry an extra pair of undies, pants, socks, and shoes wherever we go.<br /><br />I know how hard it is to not show anger when they pee on the floor for the fifth time in an hour. It will go by faster than you think. The key with my guy is this: the bigger the deal I make of something, the less he listens. If I insist he sits on the potty, he will either have a fit or sit there and hold it - even if he really, really needs to go! Just keep on not making a big deal and I'll bet he figures it out soon. Really!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07335982303703120909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-90892839553442321802011-12-06T20:28:08.670-05:002011-12-06T20:28:08.670-05:00We did the 3 day potty training method and it work...We did the 3 day potty training method and it worked REALLYREALLY well. It's essentially 3 days of pure hell, but then you're done (hopefully). We had great success and Mason was totally trained by day 3. Days 4-7 were perfect with no accidents. Then we woke up on day 8. Something in the night had clicked and he realized he had control over something. He spent days 8-about 15 pulling down his pants and peeing in sneaky spots while laughing hysterically. It was AWFUL. I was about to lose it and put him back in diapers. I finally told my husband "today is the last day. If he pees on the floor/tv/wherever today, he's going back in diapers." We haven't had an accident since. I really do think they can sense our frustration and motivations (or lack thereof!) stay strong, and keep doing what you're doing... it will click eventually!Beth @ Me as a Mommyhttp://measamommy.comnoreply@blogger.com