tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post5241639986966812255..comments2023-10-21T03:54:12.029-04:00Comments on A Gift Universe: Am I a full-time mom?Sheilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-72068969686156297622011-03-15T22:29:34.099-04:002011-03-15T22:29:34.099-04:00Thanks for your comment, Tiffany! I am so glad th...Thanks for your comment, Tiffany! I am so glad that I didn't come across as insensitive or offensive to working moms. Of course I think my way is best -- that's why I chose it -- but so many different set-ups can work for different families. It's all a matter of what is necessary and what works. If your situation is working for you, it's no one else's place to criticize!Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-36407797272297302102011-03-14T14:36:31.310-04:002011-03-14T14:36:31.310-04:00Hi Shelia!
I've been thinking about posting o...Hi Shelia!<br /><br />I've been thinking about posting on this very issue, so I read your entry with much interest. :) I am a mother that works full-time outside the home, so I too have been exposed to many, many opinions on this. We are all sensitive to our choices, certainly, so it's a touchy subject. But I think you did a great job of covering everything fairly. <br /><br />I can really appreciate your perspective on this. Several of my friends stay at home and do not work *outside* the home (because, of course, they work very, very hard *inside* the home)and they are often faced with this conversation-stopping inquiry into "what they do for a living." And I often see them unfairly labeled as "wasting their education" and generally not doing very much since "they don't work." Very frustrating. For what it's worth, I completely agree with you that WOHM do not "do everything a SAHM does plus more." We all work hard to do what is best for our kids, but I agree with you that that statement simply isn't true. <br /><br />And from the other perspective, I am a mother who gets hurt by comments to the effect that "someone else is raising my child" or that "mothers are selfish who put their children in daycare." Which is not at all what you were saying, and what the original piece was trying to rebuke as well.<br /><br />There is really no easy answer on this one. Each side is going to still sometimes feel stigmatized. I don't find "full time mother" offensive at all. I don't think that that means I'm only a part time mother. But I guess I can see how some mothers wouldn't like it. I mean, if I had to describe it, you're staying home full time right now to care for and educate your child. Hum. Thought-provoking. If I come up with a better answer, I'll let you know. :)Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05772700828819881141noreply@blogger.com