tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post3708764468290152066..comments2023-10-21T03:54:12.029-04:00Comments on A Gift Universe: Blue flowers, opinions, and a toddlerSheilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-77806685411108427832011-06-22T13:18:02.093-04:002011-06-22T13:18:02.093-04:00Enbrethiel -- your post was marked as spam for som...Enbrethiel -- your post was marked as spam for some reason, and I didn't see it till now! Sorry.<br /><br />As usual, you are a voice of reason and good advice. I think the safe thing to assume about ANYone we meet on the internet is that they're a well-meaning person who got a little out of hand on some topic they're passionate about. I think that's probably the case with Mrs. Snood. She and her friends assumed otherwise about me, and therefore flew off the handle. I think we'd all get in less fights online if we took your advice.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-5002149937350597422011-06-20T17:05:54.483-04:002011-06-20T17:05:54.483-04:00@ Enbrethiliel: I wear pashminas as well. I love...@ Enbrethiliel: I wear pashminas as well. I love them and (vanity of vanities) I can match them with my outfit I am wearing that day. It started because my husband didn't like mantillas. He has created a monster because now I have at least a half a dozen of them. :)'Akaterinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08565471800660067407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-85083902539365953602011-06-19T11:16:06.510-04:002011-06-19T11:16:06.510-04:00+JMJ+
Sheila, I was thinking about this post som...+JMJ+ <br /><br />Sheila, I was thinking about this post some more, specifically the laughable idea of you as a <i>troll</i>, and found myself feeling some sympathy for an anonymous commenter on my old blog whom I have no other name for than "troll." <br /><br />It's a different case, admittedly. I mean, anyone can come to this blog or <i>Enchiridion</i> and see that you're a perfectly normal person. My "troll" created a new (fake) log-in whenever she left a comment and always signed her comments with a different name, so there was no way to tell what she was like in real life. (Except that she was obviously <i>female</i>. LOL!) Yet I'm starting to suspect that she must be another perfectly normal person, possibly one new to internet politics, who just went a little crazy over one discussion. (I think we "veterans" can all relate.) And I certainly didn't help matters with a post about my "troll" similar to Mrs. Snood's open letter to you--except, of course, that I could only link to a bunch of fake Live Journal accounts. Still, it was a very "high school" level response, which I regret, and I've since taken the post down. <br /><br />One thing my "troll" told me, in the early days, was that if I had a problem with a certain blogger (who happened to be an author), that I should have written him privately instead of putting it out there on the internet. Honestly, though, I don't write private e-mails to <i>any</i> authors whose books I don't like, and it didn't occur to me that this one was somehow "special." And it wasn't as if he and I knew each other from our comboxes. But I do think Mrs. Snood, whom you "met" properly, owed you something much more civil than that nasty post about you.Enbrethilielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03414765854670926854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-29621825699339676412011-06-16T15:28:40.360-04:002011-06-16T15:28:40.360-04:00+JMJ+
I'm a cat fight girl and if you send m...+JMJ+ <br /><br />I'm a cat fight girl and if you send me the link to the blog, I <i>will</i> draw as much blood for you as I can before I'm blocked!!! <br /><br />;-) <br /><br />(Or maybe not . . . I just found the blog and the words "stark raving mad" come to mind for another reason.)<br /><br />Clothing choices were also a source of conflict in the marriage of one of my older relatives. Her husband thought her style was too sexy for a married woman, and she refused, telling him he was trying to make her take responsibility for his own insecurities and jealousies. Ah, <i>marriage</i>! =P <br /><br />Oh, a few weeks ago, I started wearing pashminas instead of mantillas to church. I'm not too crazy about looking like a Muslim, but dang, do I rock those headcoverings!Enbrethilielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03414765854670926854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-34707504159347834902011-06-16T08:25:41.817-04:002011-06-16T08:25:41.817-04:00Akaterina, I totally agree with you. My husband d...Akaterina, I totally agree with you. My husband doesn't order me around, but we do consider ourselves a team, and if something bothers one of us, the other usually concedes until we have a compromise both of us can live with. The wishes of your husband are a way of knowing the will of God, too!<br /><br />RandomReader, it's okay that you didn't say anything. If she felt threatened by my lone voice disagreeing with her, a second person would probably have just made her angrier. This was a very messy way of saying, "I don't want opposing opinions, I was actually asking for support only," but regardless of how she asked, it IS what she wanted, and I'm fine with just leaving her alone to wear snoods in peace. :)<br /><br />Heather, I'm glad you made the choices you did too! Because of them, I have the gift of your friendship. :)Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-8637679101421316652011-06-16T01:07:39.238-04:002011-06-16T01:07:39.238-04:00Oh, and beautiful pie, too!Oh, and beautiful pie, too!heatherhttp://hungryheather.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-42297195588216769992011-06-16T01:05:32.148-04:002011-06-16T01:05:32.148-04:00A beautiful post, a beautiful person (you) and a b...A beautiful post, a beautiful person (you) and a beautiful flower. =) ... Oh, so that's what chicory looks like! ... Aw, thanks! Sometimes I stop to imagine what my life would be like if such and such didn't happen, if I'd made a different choice of job or school at one point or another, if my supposed flaws hadn't existed and I'd gone down a different path. But then it always comes down to then not possibly meeting the people who have made my life so rich and interesting and fun and smile-worthy, people like yourself and John (and Marko!). And then my mind goes back to happy flowers and basil plants. So thank you to you, too, for being you and for being my friend!heatherhttp://hungryheather.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-25038215780090903832011-06-16T00:49:11.133-04:002011-06-16T00:49:11.133-04:00Hi Sheila, I am glad that you commented on that ot...Hi Sheila, I am glad that you commented on that other other blog, because that is how I found yours. Please, do not worry too much about how that conversation ended, things like that happen all the time and I think that any reasonable person can see that your intentions were good. An internet forum makes it often difficult to completely understand the tone behind the posts that other people make because we cannot see the other person's face, their body language or hear the tone of their voice. When a misunderstanding happens things often spiral down from there and further discussion just makes them worse because feelings already are - unintentionally - hurt. <br /><br />Reading through the threads I was debating whether to leave a comment there or not, but I decided against it. While I think headcovering is a perfectly good devotion, I am having a really hard time agreeing with the concept that God would call somebody to specifically cover their head. I have already tried to express my opinions on this topic in a different forum in which she participated, but I just ended up offending her (although I did mot mean to) so had a feeling it will be pointless. I think she is a good person that loves God and tries to live her life the best way she can and it is best to leave it at that. At the same time, I am sorry I did not come to your defense there and I would like to thank you for putting your personal story into the comments - it must have taken a lot of courage and it must not have been easy.RandomReadernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-13027469212957249272011-06-15T21:22:12.080-04:002011-06-15T21:22:12.080-04:00Sheila,
I have experienced very similar problems ...Sheila,<br /><br />I have experienced very similar problems when discussing various issues (circumcision or the whole question of Palestine/Israel seem to be the two that get heated). It is odd because it usually starts off with "What do you think" or "I would like advice/opinions," but then rapidly degrades into "You're judging me" or worse. <br /><br />I think people have their opinions and at times want confirmation not true debate. I personally love hearing what other people have to say and if I get upset, I leave for a moment to calm down (usually has more to do with my choleric tendencies than with what the other has said).<br /><br />Also, I agree about the issue of a husband's opinion. We are a team, one body, not independent of each other. There have been times where Andrew has said "wear this" or "don't wear that" for one reason or another. I usually comply because if it means that much that he feels he needs to comment on it, then I figure it is worth it. If something embarrasses the other spouse or causes concern, it would be selfish not to at least consider the other's view point.'Akaterinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08565471800660067407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-80594513700543355062011-06-15T17:00:25.288-04:002011-06-15T17:00:25.288-04:00Oh my gosh, Sheila! I really think I need to read...Oh my gosh, Sheila! I really think I need to read this blog with the crazy people! I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but it gave me no end of entertainment to think of you as "that crazy woman from every guy's past." I know how much work you put into your posts and comments (At least I did in college, I assume things haven't changed.)and you are one of the most diplomatic people I know!Reepicheep https://www.blogger.com/profile/07294066320359465731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-81182052545503896872011-06-15T16:32:41.634-04:002011-06-15T16:32:41.634-04:00You mean, random? Related to anything and everyth...You mean, random? Related to anything and everything? ;)Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-87325981174907935102011-06-15T15:44:24.655-04:002011-06-15T15:44:24.655-04:00That flower is definitely chicory.
Posts like thi...That flower is definitely chicory.<br /><br />Posts like this truly take after the title of your blog.Paul Stilwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04446241126728692642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-67818897188176619902011-06-15T14:27:04.811-04:002011-06-15T14:27:04.811-04:00Well, yeah. But if it really bothers him, it doesn...Well, yeah. But if it really bothers him, it doesn't mean he's a terrible person.<br /><br />My own husband sometimes asks me not to do things because he doesn't want me to get into stuff that he sees as harmful. He never "orders" me to do things, but I tend to consider his requests as legitimate. I guess I just trust him more than I would my own feeling of being called to some particular thing. He can sometimes see dangers in particular things that I don't. Kind of like a nun would submit all her spiritual "callings" to her superior -- if it doesn't pass the obedience test, it's not worth keeping.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-52368442464494741882011-06-15T14:25:05.984-04:002011-06-15T14:25:05.984-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275790985990503744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-26877914069669376072011-06-15T13:19:06.029-04:002011-06-15T13:19:06.029-04:00I know what blog you're talking about, althoug...I know what blog you're talking about, although I haven't read the debate, as I don't really care one way or another about headcovering at this point.<br /><br />I do think though that if a woman feels called to do so, her husband should support her. I don't think that him getting flak for the way she dresses should be enough for him to request her to stop. I mean, you're bound to get criticism for most outwardly signs of being conservative or Christian.<br />If it really bothered him, I would hope the husband/wife would have a very serious conversation, but I would hope that he would support his wife if she really felt called to do something for God.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18037863893536646602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-15701861395391366962011-06-15T11:09:22.684-04:002011-06-15T11:09:22.684-04:00"Bacon" is an excellent word indeed! Alm..."Bacon" is an excellent word indeed! Almost as good is "cornflower"; but I don't know how he'd like trisylabics yet...some guy on the streethttp://epistle-null.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com