tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post4032080699803117122..comments2023-10-21T03:54:12.029-04:00Comments on A Gift Universe: ResponsivenessSheilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-43301143674840933952011-07-14T07:15:32.722-04:002011-07-14T07:15:32.722-04:00Aw, that is so beautiful. I love your parents mys...Aw, that is so beautiful. I love your parents myself! :) It's been rougher for mine, who have had to part with their two adult children and see them go so far away. I guess I will keep hoping that my son will want to stay near me. It will be very hard for me otherwise.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-42491130367222887162011-07-13T15:15:15.987-04:002011-07-13T15:15:15.987-04:00I think this is beautifully articulated, Sheila. ...I think this is beautifully articulated, Sheila. It's much more helpful to focus on reasons than on rules. <br /><br />As far as adult children go, I'm quite looking forward to it. From my perspective (as an adult child) this is when my parents are really beginning to reap the benefits of all their years of hard work and sacrifice. I love the adult relationship I have with my parents. When I see them with adult eyes, I see their flaws and failings, yet as my understanding grows my love does not diminish.<br />Watching the house fill with growing love and joy as the children bring home spouses and grandchildren has been very encouraging, even though this is otherwise a very difficult season in their lives. <br /><br />P.S. That picture of Marko is so perfect! To me it's an emblem of all that we AP mothers hope to accomplish: a child who can run off to play and explore the world with such confidence, freedom, and joy. Also, it's darn cute.Salixbabylonicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15822486413898758221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-43514054713379454742011-07-13T00:13:07.044-04:002011-07-13T00:13:07.044-04:00I think you hit the nail on the head: so much of i...I think you hit the nail on the head: so much of it centers on responsiveness, which looks different in different situations. I also like how you've put AP into perspective. I think a lot of people misunderstand AP, thinking it's just co-sleeping, BFing, and baby-wearing. It's so much more than that!Sylvia@MaMammaliahttp://mamammalia.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-11063997593115806332011-07-12T15:55:10.741-04:002011-07-12T15:55:10.741-04:00I like that you mention AP is not a set of rules. ...I like that you mention AP is not a set of rules. Every baby, every family need different things and if we respond to them with responsiveness as you say and do, it really pays off.Isil Simsekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11848918410956563032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-83777924612438840692011-07-12T13:04:33.837-04:002011-07-12T13:04:33.837-04:00Wonderful post! This is also what I strive to do....Wonderful post! This is also what I strive to do. I'm working on giving her boundaries, though. It's great that from the start you have been in-tune with his limits and haven't pushed him too quickly. (Something else that I'm working on, too!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-58582460057682495742011-07-12T12:19:16.977-04:002011-07-12T12:19:16.977-04:00I didn't mean to scare you! It's just a lo...I didn't mean to scare you! It's just a lot on my mind at the moment...The Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04559244806125834569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-11220881432308352452011-07-12T10:51:40.810-04:002011-07-12T10:51:40.810-04:00Sojourner -- that is something I haven't thoug...Sojourner -- that is something I haven't thought much about: mothering my adult children someday. And it's not a stage I'm particularly looking forward to! But I do hope that I remain responsive to the needs of my child even when he's not a child anymore. Since responsiveness is about the constant flux of a child's needs and the parent's response, leaving the nest hopefully will be just one more stage I adapt to.<br /><br />But what a scary thought! Grown-up children are hard!Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-63078880464028603992011-07-12T08:34:10.048-04:002011-07-12T08:34:10.048-04:00You definitely gave me something to think about. ...You definitely gave me something to think about. Parenting is terms of responsiveness is what it's all about...listening to your child's needs and putting aside your conventions of what he "should" be doing. Thanks for sharing!Laura @ Our Messy Messy Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10036017218322694255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-42474292293073670852011-07-12T08:21:28.370-04:002011-07-12T08:21:28.370-04:00It's such a good point to make that AP isn'...It's such a good point to make that AP isn't about a set of rules - it truly should be based on what works for every particular family. And what great examples of responsiveness with Marko - thanks so much for illustrating the concept beautifully :)Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-73549486198949919142011-07-12T08:08:02.571-04:002011-07-12T08:08:02.571-04:00(Leaving another comment so I can subscribe to thi...(Leaving another comment so I can subscribe to this thread.)The Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04559244806125834569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-35995586947066097052011-07-12T08:07:27.118-04:002011-07-12T08:07:27.118-04:00I like this philosophy a lot, and hope it serves y...I like this philosophy a lot, and hope it serves you well for all of Mark's life. (Selfishly, because that's pretty much the philosophy I've come up with while I'm still single and childless and I don't want to have to change my ways later...)<br /><br />Seriously, I think a lot of parents of teens and twentysomethings could benefit from having enough of a rapport with their "children" to realize what they need. I put "children" in quotes because 21, 22, 23 isn't a child anymore, but a lot of my peers have parents who try to get them to act like children still (really, there are long stories behind that I won't tell now). In their defense it seems to be a generational thing...people of my parents' generation got booted out the second they turned 18 (or before--my dad's parents signed off on him joining the Army at 17), whereas people of my generation have their parents welcome them with open arms when they move back home after college.<br /><br />Okay, I'll stop soapboxing and finish my breakfast now.The Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04559244806125834569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2464977109229359349.post-81917325010615463772011-07-12T04:39:57.188-04:002011-07-12T04:39:57.188-04:00I love that word, and that philosophy. Attachment ...I love that word, and that philosophy. Attachment parenting really is about listening to what our kids need — each individual kid. Thanks for sharing!Lauren Waynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500733577920040395noreply@blogger.com